A weekly blog about relationships, belief, and personal growth, written from a position of hope.
Do you ever see the worst in people? I'm not talking about a glass-half-empty mentality or a critical spirit when you look at others. I mean you literally see the worst in someone come out.
I witnessed a lady repeatedly smacking her dog in the face after it snapped at their other dog. She kept picking the dog up slightly off the ground then pushing him back down. He would look up at her, and she would hit him in the head and jerk him back and forth.
This went on for several minutes before I finally couldn't keep my mouth shut. "Excuse me. This is none of my business, but you're really making a lot of people uncomfortable with how you're excessively hitting your dog."
"Walk away now," was her only response. In a serious tone, with a blood-filled face and rage in her eyes, she motioned for me to move along.
"Okay, you just need to know you're drawing a lot of attention to yourself, and this is not any way to treat an animal."
"Walk away now!" I could see my words weren't cutting through her ignorance, but I did notice one thing that made me sad after the fact--her husband.
You could see the embarrassment in his face as he cowered to the side of his wife's tirade. I'm going to assume he was humiliated, because he didn't say a word to me when I confronted her. His eyes just sat there and told the whole story:
"She gets like this sometimes. She won't listen to anyone, especially when her temper gets the best of her. I stopped trying years ago, because saying anything only makes it worse. I'm sorry, but I don't know what to do."
Can you imagine being the tornado that everyone else in your life has to dodge, and you have no awareness that you're the problem in most situations? We each harbor blindspots that fester and grow unless confronted.
So here's where I want your help and to encourage you to have the same mindset...
You have my permission:
Otherwise, I may find myself screaming, "Walk away now!" to a person who can't stand to watch the pain I'm creating. I may wake up in a life where my very existence drains those around me.
I don't want to ever be that person, so you have my permission.
You haven't missed your calling
From where I sit in this hospital waiting room
Accept the invitation to live
The lighted window
It was worth it
The subtle sounds of a life together
Made for the now-what
When holidays are hard
Sharing in our suffering
To my doubting friend
Ten years down the road
How long, Lord?
A season of doubt