Everything that comes out of our mouth gives or takes life. Simply put, encouragement can heal and build, while negativity kills. Not only in the context of how we affect others but also how we affect ourselves.
How's your day? We hear this all day every day. The typical responses: the weather could be better, it's a typical Monday, so busy, my team lost this weekend, can't wait until Friday, working away...
The next time someone responds to that question with something positive, pay attention to how that affects your response and perspective on your day. You almost can't help but absorb some of their attitude. Unfortunately, the opposite is true, as well. The constant complainers, the overbearing criticizers, the naysayers and the naggers...they're a black hole for those of us trying to stay alive.
To my Harry Potter nerds, they're the Dementors (dark, ominous creatures that suck all things good out of your soul). The sad truth is that most of our daily Dementors have no clue of the suction effect they have on those around them. It's their reality, not an actual bad day.
The difference in the person who responds with words of life versus words of death often has very little to do with their circumstances. Rather, they know that life is better for all when we are willing to show light, to speak life.
My favorite person is the one who truly does have something to complain about, yet they consistently show up in a powerful way to speak life into others. These people are pillars in my life. They shape my thinking and mold my heart. They give me hope on days when I want to be a Dementor. They remind me there is always something to be grateful for.
We have a choice to be people bigger than our circumstances, with vision bigger than the daily "sports/news/weather" bantering we waste our time on, with hearts strong and soft enough to not complain or criticize.
It's Monday morning right now. Make the decision.
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