I never want to be the smartest, most successful, emotionally and spiritually mature, wealthy, thoughtful, or talented person in the room. Why?
You’ve heard it said that you’re the average of the five people you spend the most time around. If your goal is to get better, letting your ego position yourself in a place where you aren’t challenged isn’t going to help.
Comparison can be a trap, the thief of all joy, as the famous quote says. But comparison is natural as our brains sort and categorize everything around us. It gives us perspective. Rather, envy and jealousy is the thief of joy.
Comparison can tell you who to hang out with. Instead of, “I’m so envious of that person,” you say, “Wow, I admire that person and aspire to grow into those attributes, so I’m going to surround myself with people like them.”
The comparison is an automatic reflex, but the reaction is our choice. The aim is to recognize where you’re at, be grateful, and then seek out others who inspire and bring you up. The alternative: suffer from crippling comparison, envy, and jealousy while never getting any better.