Order, disorder, reorder. The first half of life and the second half of life. Life, death, and resurrection. There are all sorts of ways to describe the pattern of change and growth. Having started a new career recently, I was reminded of the tension of the in-between.
“How’s the new job?” I’ve been asked that a handful of times lately, and the answer is always, “It’s going great!” If the conversation goes past that, it normally involves me explaining that I’m really excited about the opportunity, but I’m in the phase where I’m still figuring everything out.
I know insurance concepts from past experience, which takes some of the pressure off. But setting up billing accounts, updating spreadsheets, organizing files, knowing the ins-and-outs of our software, creating a new pipeline, establishing a process...
Learning, creating, and implementing new systems can create a little bit of stress. I like to be organized, and I’ve had to be okay with being temporarily unorganized.
But it’s in the stress, the tension, the learning process, the in-between, where we let enough pressure in to forge something stronger than before.
Don’t get me wrong, figuring out the mechanics of a new role is not me suffering in this life. It just occurred to me that this universal pattern of order, disorder, and reorder was happening right in front of me.
There are only so many times I can not know how to do something, ask for help, and learn before I’m sailing smoothly again and capable of helping others through the same thing.
That’s the point in all of this, right? We go through it, we survive and learn, we move into the next stage of thriving, and we are equipped to help those coming through right behind us, like the gracious friends at work that are coming alongside me.
The same pattern is in the serious things, too. Loss, divorce, disease, failure—the truly painful things of life can take our order quickly into disorder. I’ve met some beautiful souls, though, who didn’t stop there but found the new order.
That resurrection changes you. It allows you to come alongside those who are stuck in that disorder with humility and grace. Because you’ve been there before, there is no need for pride or judgment, just a desire to help.
“Call me any time.” You know how many times I’ve heard that from multiple people since I’ve started this new job? I’m grateful, for the reminder of this pattern in life, and for all those that are making it a point to help others reorder.