Do you ever get lazy, tired, or distracted and wait longer than you should to clean your shower? It happens. Something about it being gradual and our own filth makes it more tolerable.
If I showed up at a hotel to a shower equally as dirty, management would be getting a call from an appalled customer, requesting a different room and a discount.
We have much less toleration for the “filth” of others. Maybe theirs is unfamiliar, shocking, surprising. It’s not our own, therefore, it’s worse.
We have to live with ourselves, so we come up with great excuses, caveats, and justifications to minimize ours and turn a blind eye. It’s how we cope when we’re unwilling to change.
We are experts at dissecting others, though. It’s human nature, and it’s one of the default modes I often reference. And as I try to frequently point out also, I’m not excluded from this behavior.
For the record, I know the hotel shower analogy isn’t perfect. You paid nearly $300 for one night so you could be within walking distance of the T-Swift concert. You deserve a clean shower. The point stands, though, our own mess is easier to tolerate.
Rather than cleaning up our own, it’s just easier to look down upon someone else. In turn, we elevate ourselves, without ever having to improve. We get a little pat on the back for simply not being them. But guess what?
Your shower is still dirty, and it’s starting to look like a science experiment, and someone from a research facility will be arriving in a hazmat suit soon to write a paper on this new ecosystem you’ve created.
All jokes aside, can we all just worry about our own stuff? The ancient wisdom of removing the plank from your own eye before the dust in the other’s eye is more true now than ever in a world filled with comparison, gossip, judgment.