"Take a look at the person standing across from you, because you will never see them again," I once heard someone describe the marriage ceremony and the change that occurs from that point on. I heard another funny comment in the same vein, "You will wake up next to a lot of different people in the time you're married."
There is one constant in our Iives--change--and it's not limited to the context of marriage. It's much easier to notice, though, when you have someone you're choosing to be committed to, working toward their good, trying to become the type of person the other deserves and needs.
Lacie and I celebrated our four-year anniversary last month, not to mention we've attended two weddings in two weeks, so the idea of changing inside a relationship has been top of mind. I look at myself four years ago, and I look at Lacie, and I am amazed.
Yes, we've had our growing pains, and there have been challenges every single couple works through, but I am continuously encouraged to see how our lives have interacted with this constant of change.
I try to tell Lacie often that I love who she is becoming. I recognize that she's not the exact same person that I married four years ago. Neither am I. And I love her for it. I'm grateful to be married to someone whose life is moving in a direction that makes me excited about the next phase.
I love you, Lacie. Though several days after our anniversary, this week's post is dedicated to you and the woman you're becoming. I'll be over here trying to keep up.
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