A weekly blog about relationships, belief, and personal growth, written from a position of hope.
As a kid I was passionately curious (still am). I would say the phrase, "Tell me everything you know," to my Mom all the time. Whether to understand a situation within our family or to try to grasp my purpose in life, she would patiently hear me out and offer her thoughts. I've always loved the pursuit of truth, and I wholeheartedly believe it's okay and actually beneficial to question everything.
Confirmation bias says that we seek out information to affirm what we think we already know. We will often decide on something then seek information to back it up. It requires a much higher cognitive load to explore opposing viewpoints. The unfamiliar is taxing, and the conditioning and reinforcement we've gone through for years hinders the process.
In any and every situation, I want to be comfortable with asking: "Am I potentially wrong?" The ability to self-evaluate, to turn the mirror around toward ourselves, is an invaluable quality, and too few people ever allow it.
What is something you believe deeply? It could be anything from a political ideology, to your religion, the possibility of aliens in the universe, the best college football team, etc.
1. Why do I hold this belief?
2. When did I first start adhering to this belief?
3. What evidence and experience have I encountered to decide and maintain this belief?
4. How certain am I the belief I hold is correct?
5. What evidence or experience would increase or decrease my certainty in this belief?
6. Have I ever searched out opposing viewpoints to what I believe?
We grow the most as humans when we push back against the assumptions we've held true. Every generation sheds the weight of some form of ignorance from the prior generation. We no longer believe the world is flat. Slavery is immoral and wrong. The list goes on.
In the midst of an election year, atrocities being committed in the name of certain deities, hatred towards various groups of people, etc. we need the clarity that comes from questioning everything.
We are most grounded when we are willing to admit we might be wrong, and it's in our questioning and the pursuit of truth that we discover purpose, meaning, love...
You haven't missed your calling
From where I sit in this hospital waiting room
Accept the invitation to live
The lighted window
It was worth it
The subtle sounds of a life together
Made for the now-what
When holidays are hard
Sharing in our suffering
To my doubting friend
Ten years down the road
How long, Lord?
A season of doubt