I made a fire in the backyard on New Year’s Day. I had the urge to enter the new decade a little ceremoniously. Notepad in hand, I started writing all the things I was letting go of.
With each slip of paper dissolving into ash, I felt a certain relief. It wasn’t that I magically believed those things were gone now, but those symbolic moments don’t have to be magical to be monumental (and quite effective).
Just a few hours later I caught my mind going to one of the things I had dropped in the fire—happiness being tied to other people and circumstances—and immediately the image of the burning paper popped into my head.
I moved right on.
Sometimes we need to externalize what’s internal to make sense of the thing, or to take the power away from the thing, or to allow ourselves to see it for what it is and heal.
There’s all sorts of inventories and questions and goal-setting/resolution guides on the internet. That’s great, and I’m not saying to ignore them.
But...maybe give the letting-go list a shot, and if you’re like me and want to really imprint them on your brain, drop them in a fire pit, or at the very least your garbage disposal.